So I’m watching a nameless soap and one of their characters who has bipolar is pregnant. Newly pregnant.
She’s had the conversation about mental health and perinatal care with her partner. But the medicinal considerations seem lacking. I know it is just a soap, but right now I feel so angry. So let down. So empty.
Maybe I should show my hand. I want another baby. I’m taking sleeping pills (in themselves frightening with a child), antidepressants and antipsychotics. I can’t just stop them. But all of them say not suitable for use when pregnant and come with some scary side effects and dangers mentioned.
So the dilemma is, do you taper off taking them and hope to fall pregnant soon. But, then what about breastfeeding after? Or do you keep taking them and check obsessively for signs of pregnancy then try to taper off?
None of this has been mentioned, hopefully yet, but it just feels like a huge absence.
After my child was born I slipped into what I now recognise as psychosis and paranoia. I was scared someone was going to take her, recognising that I wasn’t her mum. Made worse when we registered her birth and the registrar messed up and entered her name as the mother and me as the registrar. So to deal with this I took photos of my child every single day. Not just one but 100s. So that I could prove the child was mine and I hadn’t done anything wrong.
Where is this story on TV? I know it is isn’t sexy and it certainly doesn’t have a quick fix. But where is the mother like me?